What is Pride?

          Pride is an inwardly directed emotion that carries two common meanings. With a negative connotation, pride refers to an inflated sense of one's personal status or accomplishments
     
Examples 
          1.Being proud in a way that excludes others from being proud too- building yourself up while looking down on them
          2. A proud person becomes irritated when corrected for mistakes. 

          3. A proud person accepts praise for things over which he or she has no control. 

          4.Pride will not admit mistakes. 

          5. Pride refuses to take counsel and to learn from other people.

          6.Pride often shows itself in competition with other people.

          7.Pride does not want more; pride wants more than somebody else.
           But sometimes pride is not bad at all for example: Presenting something you're proud of will help convince others in its value. This has important applications in emergencies, with civil rights and in moral and legal debates. Pride is also tied up with self esteem the psychology to reflect person's overall emotional evaluation of his or her own worth.

The Importance of Attitude

 One of the most important factors in determining our success in life is our attitude.

Attitude is a mental state relative to what we believe and affects our entire lives. We express our attitude in our words and actions. It is a habitual way of thinking that can either lean towards an optimistic or pessimistic viewpoint.  Whether your thinking is “full-glass” or “empty-glass” in nature, you have the ability to choose your own attitude.

Attitudes are greatly influenced by association which means they are contagious. The best way to develop a positive mental attitude is to surround yourself with optimists.  Positive people have a magnetic influence which attracts help and support that assist them in achieving their goals.  They have developed a ‘can do’ attitude and a resilient nature that propels them forward.

Once you begin to condition your thinking, you will develop a positive mental attitude that will greatly accelerate your future success.

Importance in Health
Experts know that a positive attitude is necessary for successful diabetes care. We nod in agreement, but have we really looked at why?
People persevere at activities they believe are possible. Convinced they have the ability to complete a task, they are willing to attempt it. Uncertain, or sure of their own inability, they will defer to others instead. The diabetic who trusts his or her own abilities to self-manage will be more diligent in self-management ("I can do this!") than one who does not. The blind diabetic who knows he or she is fully capable of participating in mainstream society, with full equality, will work hard to achieve that goal.


And there is the "stress" element. This same well-prepared diabetic, comfortable with the responsibilities and techniques of self-care, will meet potential crises with the correct responses, free from panic, and from the frantic scrambling ("What do I do NOW?") that turns little ones into big ones, and not incidentally dumps adrenalin into the blood, making good control that much more of a challenge.


Attitudes are taught. We communicate our judgments of others' abilities in many ways. If we are in positions of authority (parent, teacher, instructor), our attitudes shape others' opinions of their own abilities, and thus their willingness to act. Teachers have known for years that the student who is taught he or she can will outperform those taught they cannot; that expectations shape performance.


Attitudes about the limited abilities of blind individuals have been with us for millennia. Even today, blind diabetics still hear pronouncements like: "A blind person can't possibly do that..." or "You won't live long enough..." Such statements, from well-meaning individuals, do a lot of damage. Remember, if you believe you already have the answers, however bleak they may be, you don't ask questions. The blind diabetic who has been taught by the professionals, word and deed, that he or she is incapable, needs sighted assistance, and faces a shortened lifespan, is not likely to struggle mightily against such pronouncements. Great accomplishments come from people who believe in their own abilities.


There is every reason to make the achievement of positive attitude an important part of diabetes care. We have the technology; we have the medications; this is the "human factor." There are more choices, more options, and more ways to cope than ever before; and today no one, regardless of ramifications, needs to be relegated to a second-class life. Independence, full participation, and vocational success are achievable. Diabetes, at any level, is a discipline--and positive attitude is an integral part of successful self-management.


Importance in Everything

The process of human change begins within us. We all have tremendous potential. We all desire good results from our efforts. Most of us are willing to work hard and to pay the price that success and happiness demand.

Each of us has the ability to put our unique human potential into action and to acquire a desired result. But the one thing that determines the level of our potential, that produces the intensity of our activity, and that predicts the quality of the result we receive is our attitude.

Attitude determines how much of the future we are allowed to see. It decides the size of our dreams and influences our determination when we are faced with new challenges. No other person on earth has dominion over our attitude. People can affect our attitude by teaching us poor thinking habits or unintentionally misinforming us or providing us with negative sources of influence, but no one can control our attitude unless we voluntarily surrender that control.

No one else "makes us angry." We make ourselves angry when we surrender control of our attitude. What someone else may have done is irrelevant. We choose, not they. They merely put our attitude to a test. If we select a volatile attitude by becoming hostile, angry, jealous or suspicious, then we have failed the test. If we condemn ourselves by believing that we are unworthy, then again, we have failed the test.

If we care at all about ourselves, then we must accept full responsibility for our own feelings. We must learn to guard against those feelings that have the capacity to lead our attitude down the wrong path and to strengthen those feelings that can lead us confidently into a better future.

If we want to receive the rewards the future holds in trust for us, then we must exercise the most important choice given to us as members of the human race by maintaining total dominion over our attitude. Our attitude is an asset, a treasure of great value, which must be protected accordingly. Beware of the vandals and thieves among us who would injure our positive attitude or seek to steal it away.

Hospitality: Common Denominator in the Filipino Character

People who have experienced being with Filipinos find them very hospitable. A common trait Filipinos are known to most foreigners who have traveled around the country. Although they are not the only people in the world who can be friendly and welcoming, their attitude towards other people is said to be exceptional. Even the humblest home along the road can serve as a shelter for a stranger who has lost his way. For Filipinos, serving other people the best of what they have leave them an honor and a promise of true friendship. A typical Filipino house is not completely called a home without any facility ready for unexpected visitors. 

They welcome guests with the phrase “feel at home” to make them comfortably at ease. Arriving at your host’ house during mealtime may be awkward but if it’s in a Filipino house, you will be asked to sit down and share with what they have on the table. Because eating alone without asking others according to Filipino customs is considered rude. These manners picture how Filipinos accept and properly respect the presence of their visitors.

A form of hospitality that comes truly from the heart like how the country made its image as the land of true smiling people. considering the struggling economy, political confusions and the rising poverty in the country, anyone will be surprised seeing how Filipinos handle such situations. It is like taking everything from them but not their love of joking. Joking and laughing at everything perhaps give them relief and make them see things more positively.

Traveling in this country means more of building rapport with its people and understanding their customs. Filipinos love entertaining foreign visitors ; as to help, or for whatever reasons, interacting with them is unavoidable. Hence, aside from the country’s stunning natural assets, meeting the Filipinos gives a promise of a true friendship and memories to keep

The People

            The Filipino is basically of Malay stock with a sprinkling of Chinese, American, Spanish and Arab blood. The Philippines has a population of 90 million, and it is hard to distinguish accurately the lines between stocks. From a long history of Western colonial rule, interspersed with the visits of merchants and traders, evolved a people of a unique blend of east and west, both in appearance and culture.

The Filipino character is actually a little bit of all the cultures put together. The “bayanihan” or spirit of kinship and camaraderie that Filipinos are famous for is said to be taken from Malay forefathers. The close family relations are said to have been inherited from the Chinese. The piousness comes from the Spaniards who introduced Christianity in the 16th century. Hospitality is a common denominator in the Filipino character and this is what distinguishes the Filipino. Filipinos are probably one of the few, if not the only, English-proficient Oriental people today. Pilipino is the official national language, with English considered as the country's unofficial one.

        The Filipinos are divided geographically and culturally into regions, and each regional group is recognizable by distinct traits and dialects - the sturdy and frugal llocanos of the north, the industrious Tagalogs of the central plains, the carefree Visayans from the central islands and the colorful tribesmen and religious Moslems of Mindanao. Tribal communities can be found scattered across the archipelago. The Philippines has more than 111 dialects spoken, owing to the subdivisions of these basic regional and cultural groups.

           Some 80 percent of the population is Catholic, Spain's lasting legacy. About 15 percent is Moslem and these people can be found basically in Mindanao. The rest of the population is made up mostly of smaller Christian denominations and Buddhist.

The country is marked by a true blend of cultures; truly in the Philippines, East meets West. The background of the people is Indonesian and Malay. There are Chinese and Spanish elements as well. The history of American rule and contact with merchants and traders culminated in a unique blend of East and West, both in the appearance and culture of the people of the Filipinos, or people of the Philippines.

How to Become a Humble Person?

Appreciate your talents. Being humble doesn't mean you can't feel good about you. Self-esteem is not the same as pride. Both come from a recognition of your own talents and qualities, but pride the kind of pride that leans toward arrogance is rooted in insecurity about yourself. Think about the abilities you have and be thankful for them. Understand your limitations. No matter how talented you are, there is almost always somebody who can do something better than you can. Look to those who are better much better than you are in something to remember that you are not the best while also considering the potential for improvement. Also, even if you are the best in the world at doing one thing, there are other things important, worthwhile things that you cannot do, and you may never be able to do some of these things. Add to this the fact that there are a great many things that no person can do, and you can get some idea of your limitations. Recognizing your limitations does not mean abandoning your dreams, and it doesn't mean giving up on learning new things or improving your existing abilities. It does mean coming to terms with the very real limits of your abilities. Recognize your own faults. We judge others because it's a lot easier than looking at our own faults. Unfortunately, it's also completely unproductive and, in many cases, harmful. Judging others causes strife in relationships, and it prevents new relationships from forming. Perhaps even worse, it prevents us from trying to improve ourselves. We make judgments about others all the time, and we often don't even realize it. As a practical exercise, try to catch yourself in the act of judging another person or group of people, and whenever you do, judge yourself instead and consider how you could improve yourself. Stop comparing: it’s because, it's just about impossible to be humble when we're striving to be the "best" or trying to be "better" than others. Instead, try describing things more objectively. Rather than saying that so and so is the best guitarist ever, say what exactly it is that you appreciate about his skills, or simply say that you like his playing style. Appreciate the talents and qualities of others. Challenge yourself to look at others and appreciate the things they can do and, more generally, to appreciate people for who they are. Understand that everybody is different and relish the chance you have to experience different people. You will still have your personal tastes, your likes and dislikes, but train yourself to separate your opinions from your fears and you will appreciate others more you will be humbler. Don't be afraid to make mistakes. Never be afraid to admit that you made a mistake. Part of being humble is understanding that you will make mistakes. Understand this, and understand that everyone else makes mistakes, and you will have a heavy burden lifted off of you. Why do we make mistakes? Because we don't know everything. Any one person can know only the smallest bits and pieces of the tremendous knowledge that has accumulated over the past. What's more, we experience only a sliver of the present, and we know nothing of the future. Don't be afraid to defer to others' judgment. It's easy to acknowledge that you make mistakes and that you're not always right. Somewhat more difficult however, is the ability to acknowledge that in many cases other people--even people who disagree with

Undeniably, it’s really hard to stay humble, considering that we, people, are usually living with pride. But being proud will not give us any good things in life. Moreover, pride is one of darkest forces that can ruin not only our lives, but also the existence of our souls and spirits. People can tell that pride destroys good relationships, such as marriage and friendship. It can also destroy your own happiness and can even deter your success. Well, I have said a lot of bad things about pride and being so much proud of oneself. But that is the truth; pride is evil. Pride is the opposite of humility, and if humility is good, then what is the opposite of good? Isn’t it evil? If your proud, don’t worry, you are not evil  it is the pride within you that is evil.

To defeat the force of pride, we need:

Love
If you want to achieve humility, you need to backup it with other great virtues, such as compassion, forgiveness and kindness. You cannot become humble to someone if you hate someone. That is why becoming humble is so hard, because it also means becoming someone who possess all the qualities that support it. Humility does not live alone. It should co-exist with other good virtues to live long. Moreover, all these virtues should be united. This is why we must have love, because love is the one that bind all these virtues in perfect harmony. Love will also bind and connect all the four qualities below to work us one.

Insight
Insight is your chosen knowledge, your acted wisdom, and your valued understanding. People tend to become proud because they don’t pay attention to the consequences. Although we know that humility will keep us away from troubles, most of us still don’t practice it. The reason is that most of us, who are used to be proud, have not tried to become humble for a longer period of time. If we will only practice humility for months or years, then we will realize and understand how it indeed keeps us away from troubles and really gives us joy and peace. Furthermore, by making it a habit and a way of life, we will become truly humble.

Gentleness

Gentle people naturally love peace and order. They walk like doves; they are prudent. To become a humble person, you need to have gentleness in your mouth to avoid pompous talking. You also need to have a gentle mind and heart to avoid portentous thoughts and intentions. Moreover, you also need to have gentle hands to avoid hasty and harsh actions. Gentleness is achieved through self-control, a virtue that should be observed and be practiced at all time. This keeps us away from wrath brought by vengeance. This also prevent  us from being proud and lovers of fame, which are commonly caused by envy. So be gentle, if you want to become humble.

Honor

Many people misunderstood pride as a good virtue. That is why most of them do everything to protect their pride and not let anyone take it away from them.  Well, don’t keep and protect this dark thing within you. Instead, throw it away and replace it with honor. Most people view pride and honor as the same, but they are making a big mistake… they are opposite to each other.

Toughness

So in order to become humble, you bind your insight, gentleness and honor using your love. And to complete it, you should bind them with toughness. Pride is difficult to overcome; it can easily conquer us. That is why we need to have strength, firmness and resistance to establish humility and overthrow the force of pride. If we are weak, we will easily be tempted by the comfort and effortlessness promised by pride. Hence, be strong and stand firm in the side of humility. Remember that being humble is such a great task. That is why only great people can do it. Therefore, you got to be tough to do one of the most difficult jobs of life – to be humble.

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Who has self respect?

Self respect is not related to how people perceive you, to your achievements or to your public image but instead it comes from within.

There are celebrities and famous people who don’t have any self respect towards themselves and they even feel ashamed to be who they are. When you see those people from a distance you might find shinning eyes and glamour but as soon as you come close to them you will discover that lots of them lack self respect and that they are not even satisfied with being themselves.

Self respect plays a positive trait in terms with your personality. It defines your character and personality. Self respect is essential part of your behavior.  If you keep yourself respect high, people will perceive you in that way.

Self respect is related to your caliber and attitude in life. If you keep yourself respect intact, people will respect you for what you are. The simple rule of living is, if you respect yourself, people will respect you.  You can easily gain respect by keeping your merit high in life.

Tips to gain self respect

Respect is based on you character. You should never bend below your character. In the case, if you ask somebody for help and that person turns you down. You should stick to yourself dignity in this situation.

If you start requesting or begging for help.  It’s bad for your character. It’s imperative to keep yourself worth and dignity intact in case of gaining self respect.

Try not to things, which are below your dignity. Same goes with awareness. If a person ignores you, don’t try to beg for attention. Yourself defines your true character in life.

Self respect can gain by adhering to your values and principles in life. A person with high self respect always abides by discipline in any situation of life. If there I a situation, where you needed to choose between honesty and cheating, out of greed many people may opt for cheating.

A person with self respect sticks to honesty. This is the power of discipline or self respect. A person with high self respect is ready to face any situation in life.

A person that doesn’t escape. Don’t mean the kind of braveness needed to fight someone who bullies you but what It means is  the kind of braveness that lets you face your problems, fight for your dreams and never give up before you are satisfied with your life. Become brave and your will gain self respect.